But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
2 Corinthians 12:9
Living together is not easy. Anytime I am around other people for a significant amount of time there is bond to be conflict. Whether its intentional, because of miscommunication, or carelessness hurt happens all to often in my family. We do not take into account all the other factors going on in each others lives.
What happened at school? Have the kids been listening? How was your day?
I come in at the end of the day and add another set of problems and circumstances and often do not take into account my wife’s feelings or my kid’s attitudes. I jump in an expect her to be excited about my new great idea or the latest vision God has given me. Smiles and hugs would be nice too. That is not always the case.
Where does grace come in?
Grace is forgiveness realized. I have always heard grace defined as getting something you don’t deserve. Let’s face it we don’t deserve to live. Romans 5:8 tells us that while we were STILL sinners Christ died for us (emphasis added). God sent Jesus to die in our place and forgive us of all we have ever done or will do that is grace.
How do we apply this to family life?
First be the example. Grace is what we all need even when we don’t know we need it and so do the people in your life. We are sinful people who live in a sinful world. Because of all that sin our world is broken and messed up. Daily we find ourselves frustrated and confused by the behavior of this world we live in. It’s easy to let our frustrations boil over.
- Don’t take your bad day out on your family.
Sometimes I wake up in a bad mood. It’s not their fault. These are the days I need more coffee and more me time. If you need that too, take it.
- Show a little grace when they mess up because they will.
Man I have little kids and they are so frustrating! I have to remind myself they are not adults and many times apologize to them and to my wife.
- Remember how you were when you were their age.
Parents of teens: do you remember how you were as a teen? I know I smarted back and disobeyed often. Expect a lot from them but give them grace.
What other ways can you think to offer grace in family life?
Praying for you and your family,