Oct 12

Parents Matter: Where To Start.

ParentsmatterI had the opportunity to share at our Sunday evening service this week. I wanted to let parents know that they matter. I am a parent of four little ones. I know that parenting is frustrating and often leaves you broken and ready to quit. My aim is to encourage and equip parents. My job is focused on teens, their parents, and our volunteers but I again I am a parent of little ones so I hope my encouragement goes that far.

Parents matter! In a recent study the National Study of Youth and Religion concludes that the best way for youth to become more serious about religious faith is for parents to become more serious about theirs. If we want out teenagers and young adults to be serious about their faith then we must show them how. I do not have all the answers and unfortunately there is no one-size fits all approach I suggest to you that we must begin to do what we know to do.

Not sure how to do this? as I said above there is no one-size fits all approach but, there is a blueprint in scripture that was given to us way back in Deuteronomy.

4 “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.

Deuteronomy 6:4-9

We are told that the family is God’s original small group! The family is where God wants discipleship to take place. Sure we have the church to help us on our way but instead of pastors and youth pastors being your students spiritual hero you are suppose to be it. Instead think of us like side kicks that help you along the road.

As we look at the passage we see the blueprint for how this is suppose to happen.

  • Love for the Lord above all else. (Once we deal with ourselves and our spiritual lives then w can begin to focus on our children’s spiritual growth. )

  • Let your Love for the Lord govern everything you do. (Our spiritual lives should not be compartmentalized, it needs to be at the forefront of our minds all the time. )

  • Pass down your love of God to our children.

This is not new to us. This is something we talk about all the time. We as Christians should love God and love others, that includes our kids. Our walk with the Lord should effect everything that we do including parenting our kids. We do not get to take a moment off of our spiritual lives. Christ is in us and should lead us in all things.

So now, how do we do this. There is no easy answer and as I said before I am no expert. They say its not how much you know it that you know where to find the answers and I have some resources to suggest for you.

Tools available to help….

Parents of Teens class (Sunday’s 9:45)

Online Parenting class brandonphillips.us

Hydrate parent update

Focus on the family.



Put it into action

Family devotions.

Eat dinner together.

Talk to your kids about God.

Build Spiritual Tradition (Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter)

Do ministry as a family. (OCC, LAM, Sponsor a Child,etc..)

Rites of Passage experiences.

I hope this is a help and a blessing to you!

Brandon Phillips