I walked into a middle school dance just last Friday and it was dark, loud, and smelled of sweat. I saw a bunch of my students actually leave the dance and come say “hi” to me however, after that all went back in and continued to “dance”. As I watched and listened I really did not think much of it until the song “Grind on Me” came on. I am not sure if this was a “non-explicit” version of the song or not but here are some of the lyrics…
Baby grind on me, relax your mind take your time on me
Let me deeper shawty, ride on me
Now come and sex me ’til your body gets weak
We slow grinding baby
As I read all of the lyrics my heart hurt. What? 10-13 years olds are at school listening to this at a dance? What kind of message is that sending? I guess I should not be surprised when all they are doing is mimicking the habits they see by their “heroes” on primetime T.V.
Honestly now that I’ve had a couple of days to think about it it sickens me.
I am a pastor who teaches purity in thought and action. So for me this is very disturbing. I remember dances as a kid but I don’t remember “grinding” as they call it today. I remember the sweating but because I was nervous not because of the dancing. I remember feeling unsure of myself and drinking punch with my friends, not listening to music that is encouraging “sexual sin”,and in MIDDLE SCHOOL. It’s bad enough that they allow this stuff on primetime T.V. and radio, but come on in our schools!
Just last week I talked to our students about how young people can set and example…
Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity. 1 Timothy 4:12
Everything is stacked against our students these days. They come from homes that are not complete. They have no examples of how to live a godly life. They are pressured by peers to act certain ways and do things that compromise their faith. As people in authority over our young people we need to help them out by not putting them in situations that compromise their thoughts, hearts, or eyes for that matter.
Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. Galatians 5:19-21
So If you are a parent, teacher, pastor, administrator or if you in anyway have an impact in a student’s life please teach them the way that they are to go! And which way should they go? I’m glad you asked.
How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word. Psalm 119:9
Students are weary in this world and screaming out questions of “Who am I?” and “What am I here for?” When we allow the world to answer these questions we will keep getting the results that we are seeing. When we take a stand and say “I will not let my children be lost in the ways of the world” and introduce them to the one who created them, then and only then we will start seeing a positive change in our students.
I can’t help but think of a song that I posted last week. It is directed to girls but if we can get all students to see that they are a “Child of the one True King” they will know that they were made for more than “Grinding”.
praying for students and the struggles they may face today.
That’s all for now,